Last week, in Palm Springs, from where I am usually inspired to write, my mother and I saw the motion picture, “Brooklyn” – adapted from exquisite Colm Tóibín’s novel of the same name.



Days later again, in Palm Springs, where I also love to see motion pictures, and where we witnessed the arrival of the Winter Solstice, we all saw, “The Danish Girl,” the true story of brave painter, Einar Wegener, who became the first transgendered woman, Lili Elbe, in the early part of the 20th Century.



This morning, this Christmas Day, here in Danville ~ San Ramon, where we are celebrating the blessings of the holiday with our family, I think of these attributes ~ Each of the central characters willingly stepped into change, bravely letting go, embracing transformation, despite challenges circling their hemispheres and to choose to receive the gifts given to them by those who surrounded them with love and encouraged them to, yes, BE BRAVE and to BE BOLD.

To watch both films is to be nothing less than deeply moved and beautifully inspired to contemplate how we each can be bravely transformational ourselves. The theme of the Winter’s Solstice ~ the root holiday of what we know as Christmas.

I watched the sun rise last week, gleaming and glowing over the desert mountain range, I contemplated that which invigorates us, me, we – into choosing the live we each choose. Building our identities within the world around us. Being fearless to live as we are, in truth, justice, and the most authentic way.

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To embrace that CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONISISTENT IN LIFE. As we progress forward, to shed the old patterns, habits, clothes, objects, thoughts and beliefs, and for many, identities, that no longer serve us. To welcome the new SUN as it RISES, promising a new day, VIGOROUS, GLORIOUS, BOUNTIFUL!

This Christmas Morning, as I walked amidst the fallen golden leaves around the area where we are staying, I watched the sunrise over the hills of the East Bay, the foot of Mount Diablo, the rolling hills of emerald green and light, I understand more than ever, we must be FEARLESS IN LETTING GO ~ to fly, be free, to soar as we are like birds, branch to stamen, to blooming flower ~ to spread our love and light and beauty and gifts to all. At this holiday time, to share in the gifts of who we truly are with us, allowing our light to shine so others are inspired to do so as well.


Together we hold hands as we celebrate the Winter Solstice, Give thanks for the Gifts we share with all our loved ones during Christmas and Shed the Past and Greet the New Year, Coming this way! Blessed Be and Be Beautiful! xoxo

Alicia Gargaro-Magaña is the author of Miss Fancy Pants

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Solstice of Words

IMG_0927Blessed Be! Happy Winter Solstice! It is the day the sun stands still, the ‘shortest’ day of the year, the true New Year, the beginning of the new celebrations ~ the ‘longest’ night of the year. The time to spend creating new life, celebrating with family and friends and honoring birth and re-birth ~ it is blessed indeed!

I choose to honor the Goddess traditions. And in such, the Winter Solstice is very sacred to us who embrace the power of light and energy and words as manifestation, as magic, as spells as belief and as it is done. Our words are our magic. Words are energy in transition. As we so say it, so shall it BE!

And…I have to say… I am a frivolous goddess at times. I say things I don’t mean to say…the just ‘come out’ – without thinking of the message they send to those who are listening. Yesterday, I flippantly referred to the coffee bar attendant as a ‘ding-a-ling’ for over-microwaving my piece of coffee cake so it became a mound of runny, brown-sugared melty coffeepoundcake mush. Really Alicia? I’m the ding-a-ling for ordering such a thing! What was I thinking?

“…It’s always good to have something in your stomach when you drink a grande of coffee,” I said to my sweet sister-in-law. “Please have some…” I pushed it towards her.

“No, thank you,” she said simply, a real lady.

“Oh… I shouldn’t have called that woman a ‘ding-a-ling,’” I tell her, taking a bite, feeling like merde. Even though I didn’t make the comment to the attendant directly, it was unkind just to toss it off into the atmosphere.  “I’m the ding-a-ling for ordering this…” I give myself the absolution as I took another bite…now I have to finish it all by myself! Two words, my friends: Cray! Cray!

And of course, I felt like shitey for some time. I know better! I was being flippant and unthinking and just saying things that don’t matter and have no purpose or manifestation in the world except to project my unthinkingness. Take the onus of me and point it towards someone else. Shirk the responsibility and hide it in the form of silly meanness!

I made an effort to be much more pausey-be-fore-speaking throughout the rest of the day. I made an effort to exact kindness upon each person I came in contact with thereafter. I made an effort to see Goddess and God in each person I interacted with and in those passing by me – for when I call someone a name, I am saying the same to our Creatrix Being – however you and I understand she, he or it. I was making amends. I was asking for real absolution. Each moment is a teaching moment as many people of awareness like to say. But poof! It is gone and here, everyone, we have a new one! This one is even brighter, more shiny and brand new!

Today, I am in full understanding that Winter Solstice is a time to stand still for the moment and watch the Sun throughout the day. Solstice means the sun stands still. Each moment it is making a new moment happen that we can see clearly because the light is so bright. We can see the good, the bad and the ugly all at once and we can honor the choice to choose differently and heal and turn it all around.

It is the magic of the moment that we honor and it is a lovely exercise in active, aware meditation ~ of creating a spell of love and life and light and manifestation. Of choosing our words to impart our intention and setting that intention into the atmosphere. What are “New Year’s Resolutions” but spells for the coming year! Make them lovely!

This morning, I stepped outside and took this photograph of the bird cloud in the sky. Look how the bird soars and will change in moments as the sun moves. So shall we soar throughout the day making magic and spells and using words that are meaningful and charming and exciting and beautiful and purposeful and brilliant and kind and generous and honorable and considerate. We have the vocabulary. We have the understanding. We have the technology of our brains and mouths and language. Choose and be chosen. And most of all today, BE LOVELY! It’s a holiday after all – A HOLY DAY!

Enjoy and have a blessed Winter Solstice Day in every way! Xoxo